Heartbreak to Strength Blog

One Letter Makes A Difference!

Her words jumped off the page at me. 

As I read the difference between these two words, it was a like a light bulb was clicking on in my mind.

Jennifer Rothschild points out in her book that “the only difference between becoming bitter or becoming better is the letter I.” 

Before I continue with her quote, let me share that Jennifer Rothschild is blind.  She lost her sight at the age of 15 due to a retinal disease.  In her book, Lessons I Learned in the Dark: Steps to Walking By Faith, Not By Sight, she shares some important truths she has learned as well as some struggles that come with her blindness.

Have you ever struggled with your life circumstances? 

Have you ever wondered why you have to walk the hard path you are facing? I know I have.  When life throws us a curve ball, it is easy to wonder why is this happening to me?  I am sure that Jennifer thought this same thing at age 15 when her world turned dark.

I think that is why her quote really stood out to me.  She says, “The only difference between becoming bitter or becoming better is the letter I. Approaching our difficulties from the standpoint of what I want, what I have lost, or what I think is fair will embitter us.”

I know that I have focused on what I have lost or what I wish I had as I walked through a hard circumstance.  Honestly, I think it is natural to ask the hard questions like why me, but the key is not to get stuck there. 

Jennifer continues by saying, “Bitter eyes can perceive only the injustice and the sorrow in our situation.  Grateful eyes, however, will always see the grace of God, regardless of how difficult circumstances might be.”

Friends, we want to move from bitter eyes to grateful eyes.

Let me say that this is not easy.  It is difficult to do in our strength.  But we can as we remember Phil 4:13. “I can do all things through Christ that gives me strength.” 

You might be saying, how can I be grateful for this hard circumstance. 

We are not thankful for the hard circumstance, but we are thankful for God walking by our side through the hard circumstance.

Fix your eyes on Jesus.  Thank Him for giving you strength each day.  Focus on His comfort and love.  As you do, you will see that this hard circumstance is making you better not bitter.

Love, Jodi 

Join Me in Remembering

I just stared at her picture.

Her beautiful profile in the sonogram photo matched her big brother’s ultrasound picture.  Seeing the family resemblance, I just could not take my eyes off her precious face.

Sadly, I never got to see her sweet face in person or hold her in my arms here on Earth.  She passed away before I ever got to meet her.

To parents who have lost a baby, I see you.  I am one of you.

Feeling devastated when the doctor could not find my baby’s heartbeat at 16 weeks pregnant, all my hope and dreams for my baby were gone in an instant. Can you relate?

I cried most of that summer as I found it hard to say goodbye before I even got to say hello.   Grieving the loss of our sweet Baby Grace was challenging and at times, even hopeless.

All that changed one year later when I received a phone call from a college friend.  She shared about a church friend that just walked through the same heartbreaking loss I had the previous summer.  She wanted to know if I would talk to her and help her.

I said yes, not fully understanding how much healing would come from helping another hurting heart.

As I shared my story of Baby Grace, I offered this grieving mom comfort and hope. I reminded her that she was not alone.  I realized now that I would not have been able to help her in her grief without having walked those same painful steps one year before.   

That summer, God clearly showed me that He never wastes our hurts.

My story of miscarriage helped another mom walking through her story of miscarriage.  My tears became my testimony.  My pain now had a purpose.  God wants to do the same for you.

When you place your tears in God’s hands, He can use your heartbreak to bring hope to another hurting heart.

Yesterday, Oct. 15th was National Pregnancy & Infant Loss Remembrance Day.   Join me in remembering all those who have walked this difficult loss and let’s pray for all the grieving moms.   

Love, Jodi

Note: In honor of this special day, I have a two-part episode on pregnancy loss on my Depth podcast.  My hope is to encourage someone walking through this heartbreaking loss. 

Click on the link to the apple podcast below or go to jodirosser.com and click on the Depth image. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/depth-podcast/id1477636973