Heartbreak to Strength Blog

Repair the Rupture

I did it again; I let my mouth lead me into trouble.

Last week, I was feeling overwhelmed with what I had on my plate.  As the feelings of frustration built up inside, sadly I snapped at my son in front of his friends.  

I reacted with hurtful words instead of responding with patience and love.

Looking back, I am embarrassed with how I replied.  That evening, I knew that I needed to take responsibility for my poor choice in words and angry tone.  I sat down with my son to apologize and repair the rupture.

After he accepted my apology, I realized I still did not feel at peace. I knew I needed to make it right with his friends too.  Humbly, I called and apologized to each of them.

It is not easy to admit our mistakes and ask for forgiveness.  Honestly, repairing the rupture is something I learned much later in life.  The old me would have found reason to blame someone else for my poor choice.  But now, I see the importance of owning our choices both good and bad as well as repairing any mistakes we make along the way.

We have a mantra we say at our home, “My Response is my Responsibility.  Your Response is Your Responsibility.”

Even if the other person says something hurtful, I am still in control of my response.  Even if the other person frustrates us, we are still responsible for our reply.

I like the word response better than reaction.  We react in anger; We respond in love.

Do you need to repair any ruptures today? I know it is difficult to admit our shortcomings, but I promise you will never regret taking ownership of your choices. I would love for you to adopt the mantra, “My Response is my responsibility.” It has been life-changing for me.

One last thought: Remember no one is perfect, we are all works in progress. Give yourself grace when you mess up, repair the rupture, and then try again.

Friend, I am praying for both you and me today as we take responsibility for your choices and repair any ruptures that we need to along the way.

Love, Jodi

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Remember the Goal is Progress, Not Perfection.

I did it again.  I skipped the most important part of my day yesterday.

Waking up, I began my day with the intention of spending time with God first thing in the morning.  However, the tasks on my to do list lured me in the opposite direction.  Can anyone else relate?

I have a goal to begin each day in God’s word, but I am easily pulled away like iron to a magnet. 

What should we do when we veer off the path?  Course Correct!

Friend, for me, this means I extend myself grace and make a plan to try again the next day.  For my fellow Enneagram 1 friends like me, it does not mean we should let our self-critic tell us we are a disappointment.  This is a struggle for me.

Remember the goal is progress, not perfection. 

I love God’s grace to us.  This morning I woke up to this beautiful sunrise!  I felt like God had painted the sky just for me to remind me of His amazing grace!

So I tried again this morning, woke up early, and got spiritually fed in God’s Word.  Some days we will do it better than others. 

Remember the goal is growing, not perfect.

Give yourself grace when you fall short.  Don’t ever give up, but make a plan to try again the next day.

I know I needed this message this morning, so I am praying this encourages you too!

Love, Jodi 

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