In college, one day of the year that I dreaded as a single, 21-year-old woman was Valentine’s Day.
I remember watching my friends get flowers and go on special dinner dates and honestly, I felt less than. Maybe you have felt the same way.
Valentine’s Day was a reminder that I was alone.
I think our culture puts a high demand on being in love or having a special someone on Valentine’s Day. If you fall into a different category like single, divorced, or widowed, this holiday can be extremely difficult.
If you wish Valentine’s Day was already over, let me share some truth that has helped me.
1. Valentine’s Day focuses primarily on romantic love, but I encourage you to expand your definition of love.
Think of all the loved ones in your life and honor one this Valentine’s Day. Place your focus on the love for your kids this year. Give attention to the deep admiration you have for your parents, siblings, or friends.
2. Valentine’s Day puts an emphasis on special dinner dates, so I encourage you to start a new dinner tradition.
At our house, we decorate the table like a fancy restaurant and eat our favorite finest cuisine: steak and shrimp. We exchange cards and gifts; I love my special Valentine’s Day dinner with my sons at home. Maybe it is time to start a new family tradition.
3. Valentine’s Day places value on the temporary, but I encourage you to have an eternal perspective.
Let’s end with your most important relationship: God’s love. John 3:16 says “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.” I love this graphic and the word Valentine in it.
What if we viewed Valentine’s day through the filter of God’s love? What if we stopped trying to find our value through earthly love, but instead focused on our worth through God’s eyes?
Valentine’s Day is a reminder of God’s love!
I wish I could go back in time and share this truth with my 21-year old self. Friends, if you are feeling alone this Valentine’s day, remember the God of the Universe is whispering to you right now, “I see you. I love you. I made you for a purpose.”
Praying this truth sinks into your heart this Valentine’s Day!