When Loss Tries to Steal your Identity, Cling to this Important Truth

I remember wondering if I fit in.

For over 15 years, I had been a member of this club.   Immediately after joining, we attended a bible study for young married couples.  As babies joined our family, we began leading a married with kids small group.  Married was part of my identity.

What do you do when you no longer fit into where you have always belonged?

This became my reality as I walked through a heartbreaking divorce.  Honestly, I struggled with no longer being married.  Friends, no one wants to be kicked out of the club.    

Grief has a way of stripping our identity. 

Maybe you find yourself in a similar situation. Perhaps you lost a parent and are struggling with your new role as a daughter without a mother to call for advice.  Maybe you lost a child and the empty chair at your table is a constant reminder that a loved one is missing.

This is how Sara felt. She shares about this on my Depth podcast this week as we highlight her new book, Made for Hope. Sara’s story of loss and redemption is powerful especially as she shares about the unexpected gifts she found in the middle of her brokenness.

One gift she found was her identity, her true identity!

I love Sara’s words of wisdom after losing her son. She says, “No matter what else changed in my life, my identity in Christ had not.  I will always be a child of God, no matter what I had lost or let go of.”

What do you do when loss steals your identity? 

Cling to this important truth that will never change: You will always be a child of God, chosen and dearly loved. 

Everything else can be taken away. If your identity is wrapped up in your role as a wife or a mom, you can lose that.  If your worth is tied to what others think of you, you can lose that.  If you identify yourself with your job and your successes, you can lose those too.

There is only one thing that you cannot lose.  Friends, we cannot lose our relationship with Jesus.

When loss tries to steal your identity and it feels like you are being kicked out of the club, just remember you will never be kicked out of God’s club. 

He loves you!  He died on the cross for you. You are His Masterpiece.  Praying this encourages you today.

Love, Jodi

3 Important Truths to Remember when your “Holiday feels more like a Hole-iday”

My heart was breaking for them.

It was their first Holiday without their mom.  My dear friend had passed in August 2016 and as the Holidays approached, I knew it was going to be a difficult Christmas for her kids.

Sometimes “Christmas can feel more like a hole-iday than a holiday.”

I heard this quote in Max Lucado’s Christmas book, Because of Bethlehem. Sadly, I think many of us have felt this way.  Can you relate?  Are you feeling deep sadness this Holiday season?  Are you grieving the loss of a loved one?

First let me say that I am so sorry.  I understand how hard it is to deeply miss someone you love.

I want to encourage you today with 3 important truths to remember when “your Holiday feels more like a Hole-iday.”

1. Remember “when everything shakes, God remains unshaken.”

This is another great quote from Max’s book, Because of Bethlehem. This is so good, let me say it again:

Friends, when your world gets turned upside down, please cling to the truth that God has not changed. Your circumstances may have changed, but you are still a child of God, chosen and deeply loved.

2. Remember God is faithful!  

Friends, God’s presence became so real to me in my grief. I can confidently say that He will walk with you through this difficult time and offer you comfort and love.  I know it is not easy to walk through loss; it is even harder around the Holidays.

Please give yourself lots of grace.  Surround yourself with friends and family that can offer empathy.  Be honest about how you are feeling and let others know what you need. 

3. Remember that God sees you and has not forgotten you. 

When you feel alone, please cling to the truth that God “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted.” (Psalms 34:18) He wants to walk through your grief with you. Seek Him daily and let him turn your pain into His purpose.

I am praying for all the hurting hearts this Christmas season.   

Love, Jodi

Note: This week on my Depth podcast, Lisa Appelo shares her powerful testimony of God’s faithfulness in her grief. Eight years ago, Lisa became a sudden widow and single mom to her 7 children. You do not want to miss how she has found hope in the middle of her hard circumstances, 

To listen, click on the following link: https://link.chtbl.com/vZzTid7o